It does get better

It does get better

I promised to be consistent, but here I am, I haven’t written in a month and some days 😂 I have just been extremely lazy 🤦🏾‍♀️ I haven’t experienced this kind of freedom in forever and now I don’t know how to act 💀

It’s not too late to say Happy October, is it?😁

I’m here now anyway. So hey, it is #WorldMentalHealthDay 

today and coincidentally I’m writing about this…

Mental health is one of the things I know people take for granted especially in this part of the world where I’m from, you tell someone you’re sad or depressed and they start with the questions “why are you sad?” “What’s there to be sad about ?” “You’ve got this and that”, “you better just be grateful to God”, so instead of talking about the problem, the person just bottles it all up. You cannot bottle up your problem and just hope they go away.

When I saw tweets about it, I was glad, at least, there is a day dedicated to it, and that will create more awareness.

This year has just been a whole lot for me, I wrote about it here, I’m tired, when will this end? So you could check it out, so I don’t have to talk about it here again.

It does get better, it is just to find the strength to persevere and most times it’s not even easy, some things are easier said than done. It is always easy saying how things could be or what things should be but most times when I’m down or sad, I don’t even know how to help myself. It happens, life happens, things happen that make us feel down, sad or depressed, it’s understandable, even better when you’re surrounded by people that love you and care about, so you don’t feel alone.

People cannot understand what they haven’t felt, so it’s easy to judge what we don’t understand, there was a particular time it was on the news that someone committed suicide, I didn’t know the person but I felt really bad, it takes a lot to think of committing suicide than actually doing it, and the comments section, people were really insensitive about it and that even made me feel bad for the person, someone said “why would you want to commit suicide it’s not that deep” you should know people take things differently and what’s not “deep” to you might be very “deep” to someone else.

You know, when you hear people say, “it can never be me” or you’d feel people are exaggerating how they are feeling, the prayer is for us not to experience things that will make us want to commit suicide.

The worst kind of pain is not being able to explain to anyone how you feel, I have had anxiety for a long time now most times I just don’t understand how I feel, nothing is wrong but at the same time, nothing feels right.

Today I want you to know it’s okay not to feel okay, your struggles are real, your emotions are valid, on days when you feel the weight of the world just know you’re not alone.

I saw this on a post on Twitter and I’m sure you can relate to it.

Usually, when people ask me how I am doing, the real answer is I’m doing shitty, but I can’t say I’m doing shitty because I don’t have a good reason to be doing shitty. So if I say “I’m doing shitty” then they start to say “why? What’s wrong?” And I have to be like “I don’t know, all of it ?” So instead when people ask me how I’m doing, I usually say “I am doing great”

Credit @Henryhammerbeck, Twitter.

If you were born with all the weakness to fall then you were born with the strength to rise.

So again I want you to know it always gets better, You’re not alone. I pray and hope you find the strength to deal with whatever you’re going through.

Love always 💛

Eyilayo ✨🍫