Skinny Shaming is as real as you and me.

Skinny Shaming is as real as you and me.

I have been skinny my whole life, I was always one of the smallest in my class, right from primary school.

I remember how much I used to get bullied cause of my stature and I thought as I got older I’ll get bigger but no I was still always small.

I was very quiet too, so it was easy for me to be bullied.

I remember wishing I had an elder brother that would fight for me. When it got so bad I will report to my mum and she would come to school the next day to report to my class teacher then she (my class teacher) would sanction the person but I got bullied again for reporting.

“So you went to report me abi, you’ll see what I will do to you.”

Omo

It was a struggle.

Secondary school was when we were just becoming teenagers and so it was a lot worse, you’re being called Tboard, Flat-screen TV, Broomstick, Toothpick, Mop stick…

I got used to it, as much as I wanted to rub it off and act like it was nothing, it got to me.

It’s important to note that everyone’s feeling is valid, shaming anyone whether skinny, fat, short, tall… on the things they cannot control about themselves is very wrong, it’s never a joke.

People are different and so are our bodies.

Anytime I get compliments on my body it’s always,

”You know you should be a model”

because models are known to be super skinny.

Funny how of all the things I have always wanted and still want to be, being a model isn’t one of them.

Probably just a face model, I’d like that.

If there’s one thing I’m tired of, it is explaining to people why my body is the way it is.

If there’s anything I have been intentional about it is gaining weight, I have tried all that I can do.

I used to weigh 45 for the longest time, recently it got to 53 well there’s progress, it’s rather slow but there’s progress.

I’m here to tell you that what you unconsciously think is funny about people’s weight causes harm and most times it leads to depression.

Things you should stop saying to Skinny people.

1. Do you eat?

Did you say eat???

“What size are you again, size 2 or 4 right”

“I thought you’d be bigger than this.”

“Are you sick?”

“You look 14.”

Questions like this, I’m always so clueless on how to reply. I don’t get it.

Stop making people feel insecure about the things they cannot control about themselves.

2. You should eat more.

Oh wow really? I didn’t know this.

Most of the skinny people I know eat a lot so I don’t think this helps.

I used to take multivitamins to gain weight, it’ll work for the time I’m taking it, then I’ll go back to square one when it’s done.

Wahala 😂

3. You better eat so you don’t break.

Why don’t you mind the business that pays you or direct that energy into something else 🤷🏾‍♀️

Most times I’d want to volunteer to help someone carry something then they start with

”don’t worry let someone else do it so you’ll not ”break”

How sweet🥰

4. Why are you starving yourself?

It’s funny how people think I’m starving myself with food, if you know me, you will know I’m always thinking of food.

I can’t wait to be able to afford my own personal chef 😍

5. Real women have curves.

Real women have curves so their men will have something to hold on to.

What will he hold on to?

Bones b, Sexy bones.🙈

“All people who identify as women are “real” women, regardless of shape, size, or the number on the tag in their jeans.”

I feel people have their specs, which is fine. So go for what you want, please.

At the end of the day, all that matters and all that we want is that the person we choose chooses us back.

6. Are you dieting?

With the kind of body I have it’s easy to conclude that I’m dieting, which I don’t even pay attention to.

I have gotten so much comments on my body that I started to think something was wrong with me, it was until I started making friends and meeting people who could also relate to it.

If you make any unsolicited comment on my body then be ready for whatever reply I give especially after I have told you, I don’t like it and then it continues with, “why, but are you not small?” “You too eat more, if don’t like your body then work on it, is it not to eat.”

Ughhhhhh.

Feelings are valid whichever way you want to see it.

Stop making people feel insecure about the things they cannot control about themselves.

My friend Busola inspired me to write this. ❤️

“Every piece of you is a burst of beautiful.”

Okay? Okay.

Thank you for reading.

Please make comments on it.

Eyilayo 🍫✨